What Makes You Really Angry?

What ticks you off?

What makes you want to IMPLODE and EXPLODE at the same time?

Things that bother me

Drivers who don’t use turn signals when changing lanes on the highway, especially when they pull right in front of me and leave about a hair’s width between my front bumper and their rear bumper.

Drawers left open.  I don’t get it.

People who are in the #1 position at a stoplight who don’t GO when it turns green.  They’re probably texting.

Getting slammed in the backs of my ankles with a shopping cart in line at the grocery store.  I’ve found that hungry people can be very impatient.

Broken promises.

Automated phone prompts and mechanical messages on customer service lines.  I may be the exception, but I prefer to converse with human beings.

Note: These are some things that “bother” me, but don’t necessarily make me angry.  Now on to my next list …

Things that make me angry

People who work very hard at their jobs and struggle to pay their bills.

Children left in day care centers and after-school programs because their parents have to work.

Companies who don’t provide benefits to their employees because they can get away with it.

People who are paid far less than what they’re worth.

Dreams and desires that are not being fulfilled.

Passions in life that are being ignored or put on hold for “some day” – which, of course, isn’t on the calendar.

Single parents who miss out on their children’s school activities, plays, performances, and sporting events because they’re the sole bread winners and can’t attend.

A lot of other things make me really angry, too – situations and circumstances that stand in the way of people designing a comfortable and enjoyable life for themselves.

I don’t know about you, but I’ve had enough of working my fingers to the bone to make the company and the boss rich.

It’s my turn.  And it’s your turn, too!

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  • I can relate to many of those and they can be real irritants and causes for frustration. Over the years I’ve tried to focus on what I can change and still work on it continuously otherwise it’s easy to give people the power to rob you of your joy.
    Warmly,
    Yvonne

    • You’re so right, Yvonne.

      It is way too easy to cave in, lose your strength and your focus, and allow others to rob you of your joy.

      I’m planning on keeping the thieves away!

      Much love,
      Melanie

  • There aren’t too many things that make me truly angry, but when it happens I’ve learned that anger can be a very powerful motivator for me to take action.

    Fear won’t do it. Pain won’t either, often.

    But anger? Oh yeah!!!

    In fact, I think that’s what it’s for. Now if all those folks who are angry at something would go do something positive about it, instead of just yelling at whoever will listen. . . I guess that one is in a category of “peeve”.

    Thanks for a thoughtful post.

    Nancy

    • Nancy ~ It’s wonderful to see you here today.

      YES and Amen to that thought! The saying “Moved to anger” comes to mind because there’s no question about it that anger can be a very POWERFUL motivator.

      Ranting, raving, shouting, jumping up and down … futile. And will only help to raise your blood pressure.

      Appreciate your input!
      Melanie

  • Very interesting comment from Plank.

    We have the emotion for a reason. It brings to the forefront things that need to be handled. Without upset…or anger, much of the terrible things that happen in the world would not be resolved.

    When you finally say, “Enough is enough,” you will most likely move your fanny. Sometimes it takes anger to get to that point.

    I don’t believe anger should be ignored… but used in a productive way as Plank suggests.

    • Kathy ~

      You absolutely understood what I was getting at. And I agree with you 100%. Sometimes you just have to get “dog mad” and then your fanny gets out of first gear and into fifth!!

      Thanks for the affirmation and have a terrific Tuesday!
      Melanie

  • Melanie:

    You would definitely not enjoy driving in NYC. Taxis on the far right moving three lanes over to the left on Second Avenue at their leisure without signaling. Somethings we have not control over.

    People must take action instead of speaking and talking about doing things. I always say to them when I see it I will believe it.

    • Love that, Jane!

      Another way to say it would be: “Stop flapping your jaws and show me”!

      See you on your blog soon,
      Melanie

      P.S. Doing any more interviews on Blog Talk Radio these days?

  • Melanie,

    After reading this rant, my question is… how are you going to either: ignore things like drawers left open, or even better, turn it into something good? That makes you more productive instead of angry?

    • I like the way your mind works, Robert. You’re as sharp as a tack. And that’s the point, precisely. Some things can be ignored – like the insignificant things that bother you (one of my twins leaves drawers open all over the house). The other kinds of weighty issues that affect our lives in negative ways and make us angry can become the impetus to productivity and change.

      As an example, I’ve grown very tired of traveling down a dead end road by working almost four decades in the offline world. I’m finally “angry” enough to do something about it.

      As an aside: Sheila Atwood told me that you’re her hero.

      Thank you for your meaningful commentary today,
      Melanie

  • Yea, Melanie! Great list, and the venting does help, doesn’t it?
    Evelyn

    • Evelyn ~

      I think I’m going to consider this post, “communal” venting. I can’t help but think there’s got to be at least a few more people out there who feel the same way about being trapped in the corporate world and not sure how to get out.

      Boy, you’re quick!! I just hit the “publish” button and you responded with a comment.

      Thanks,
      Melanie