I am Not a Rebel, Radical, or Revolutionary — Just Your Garden Variety Rule Breaker

#braveblogging | Sometimes it's okay to burn the rule book

Some rules beg to be broken.

People like me go out on a limb and break them — not to be cantankerous or confrontational but to simply navigate life differently.

I’m a gal who likes to write my own ticket, make my own rules, freelance my talents, and do a bit of messing with tradition.

Breaking away from the norm is my kind of fun.

I’m a small-town girl at heart, a recovering perfectionist, and a poster child for the introverted. I always cheer the loudest and proudest for the underdog and I love going against the grain.

Yeah, that’s about as radical as I get.

By the way, totally ignore that memo about introverts. We’re NOT anti-social and we’re great at organizing events, closets, presentations, projects, and groups of people.

We just happen to be most creative and do our best work flying solo.

And after we’ve been surrounded by large crowds of people, we need to decompress in a quiet, soothing, safe environment … alone. (With a stiff drink)

So now that I’ve hopefully cleared up some misconceptions, let’s take a stroll down my rule-breaking lane.

Sometimes it's okay to burn the rule book | #braveblogging

I Opted for a Ringless Engagement.

No flowers, no photos, no engagement dinner party, no formal announcements — no hoopla whatsoever and no ring.

What? Huh?! Yep, it’s true.

This summer my sweetie asked me to marry him. I said “Yes” … but “No, thank you” to the whole ring thing.

I’m not a jewelry person, for starters, and I think getting engaged is more about the heart-centered commitment and togetherness factor than a piece of jewelry.

When people ask to see my engagement ring (and they always do!), I tell them it’s really quite extraordinary — it’s invisible.

They usually giggle kinda nervously and respond with, “Oh, that’s different.” And they’re right. It’s different in that a ringless engagement is non-traditional and totally unexpected.

The dough my guy would have spent on an engagement ring could be much better utilized for everyday living and household expenses. You guessed it. I’m a practical-minded individual.

I Don’t Write Long Blog Posts.


This is another area I’ve chosen to break a rule and travel off the beaten [blogging] path.

I know, I know. Posts that are 2000+ words get more social shares. If I read any more stats, facts, advice, and analytics about it, I’m going to vomit.

But guess what?

I don’t write for Mr. Google or for shares, I write to add value to my readers’ lives and to their businesses.

I’ve worked hard to develop my personal writing style over the past decade of blogging.

Short, sharp posts are my signature style.

I like to call them “Pigeon Hole” posts. I zero in and get to the punchline, quickly, and people appreciate the obvious absence of frivolous fluff and filler.

My beautiful readers are busy people. They don’t have time for 2000 words! I respect them by keeping my posts short, averaging 450 – 750 words which, as a matter of interest, they generously share.

I Charge an Hourly Rate for my Copy Editing Services.

OMG!! A unicorn just died.

Nobody in my industry charges by the hour, right?!

All the well-meaning, experienced biz coaches and mentors out there are probably rolling their eyes or heading for my contact form to offer their help and set me straight.

Don’t bother contacting me, coaches and mentors. Your colleagues have already knocked on my door with their pearls of pricing wisdom.

Here’s the thing …

I have happy clients that happily pay my standard fee, which makes me do the happy dance.

And so far, the sky hasn’t fallen because I’m charging an hourly rate.

I’m more than aware I’m breaking a cardinal rule of most freelance copy editors — those who would NEVER trade hours for dollars, not even if hell freezes over!

But it works for me.

And that, my friends, is all that matters.

Please don’t think of me as off-the-wall cuckoo or pig-headed. Just think of me as your garden variety rule breaker.

Break any rules lately? Spill the beans and give me the scoop. I’m all ears. (Introverts are really good listeners.)

Makeness Media Bravery Blogging Project

  • GiftedWithADD

    People are always calling me a “rebel” but it bugs me. They don’t accept it when I say I’m not a rebel. I’m awesome and I want everyone to see their awesomeness. Rebel sounds negative and like a “bad girl.” I’m just awesome. If you can’t handle that, that doesn’t mean I’m a rebel; it means you’re mediocre or an a-hole. BTW, I too am a lover of the underdog and my engagement ring was a $12 Hematite band.

    • Oh, my goodness! Oh, my soul! Where have you been hiding all these years, Margit?! At LONG LAST, someone who understands what it means and what it’s like to be ‘awesome’ — and NOT in a ‘bad girl’ kinda way.

      Thrilled to learn you’re a supporter and cheer leader for the ‘underdogs’ of the world, Margit. They need us! And doubly thrilled to find out your engagement ring didn’t require the robbing of Fort Knox. LOL! I know a woman who demanded her fiance pay a minimum of $5000 for her engagement ring or she didn’t consider it suitable. Jeez Leweez!! Talk about pretentious (and spoiled and arrogant … and stupid).

      • GiftedWithADD


        • Funny you should mention ‘Twinsies’, Margit. I’m a single mum with four daughters and my youngest are ‘twinsies’. 😉

  • Abigail Rose

    Three cheers for the rule breakers! 🙂

    • Here, here! Let’s give a cheer!

      Dear Rule Breaker, Abigail, thanks for the visit. 🙂

  • Hi Melanie, you’re so right that some rules just beg to be broken. Throughout my life I’ve done things my way and it has served me well. I don’t consider myself a rebel either, and the rules I break don’t seem that big of a deal to me, or result in any unicorns dying.

    I used to have fun in school, for example, when the teacher insisted we write an outline first, get it approved by her, and then (and only then) write the final composition. For whatever reason I needed to write the full-blown composition first. My teacher didn’t need to know. Then I would create my outline and turn it in. Once the teacher approved it, I just had to write the already-finished composition in my best penmanship and turn it in. Boy! I impressed my teachers by submitting the finished paper in record time. It gave me tremendous joy to break that rule!

    • Flora, you little devil, you! Pulling the wool over your (unsuspecting) teacher’s eyes. LOL!

      I’m in your camp. I DESPISED drafting outlines in school. Seemed like such a waste of time. (Of course, I don’t feel like that now.) 😉

      Thanks for catching my post. It’s always a joy to see your beautiful mug. xoxo

  • You see, Melanie, THIS is why I ♥ you. 🙂 I have a similar affliction. I abhor labels. I firmly believe we are each unique (stems from what I call Middle Child of Seven Syndrome). And I will never stand in line to purchase anything because everyone else is. I was probably the last person on the planet to get a VCR (and how’s that for dating myself?), a microwave, and a cell phone (much less a smartphone). One of my mantras is ~ there is no right or wrong – just different. 🙂

    • “There is no right or wrong — just different.” And that’s why I love YOU! 🙂

      I’m a middle child, too, Cathy. We’re our own unique breed, aren’t we? Firstborns and the youngest children in families just don’t get what’s it’s like to be stuck in the middle. Our birth order has its own flavor and funkiness and flair. 🙂

      By the way, if they named a paint color after middle children, I wonder what color it would be? For sure, it would have to be something DIFFERENT. LOL!

      • Sharon Hurley Hall & I already think we’re twins. Maybe we should stretch that to triplets. 😉

        • Yesssss!! Add me to your duo and let’s make it a trio. 😉

          Isn’t it wonderful to meet people online you immediately feel a connection to? Something just clicks and you resonate BIG TIME. Fellow crusaders and kindred spirits. 🙂

          • More kindred spirits; I love it!

            • Thanks for catching my post, Sharon, and for the shares. My world is a better place with YOU in it. 🙂 xoxo

              Write On!!

  • “I Don’t Write Long Blog Posts.”
    I know that.
    And you know that I know that.

    • Darn tootin’ I know you know! 😉

      I get a lot of flack sometimes from SEO types, copywriter friends, website developers (like my son-in-law), but I don’t pay any attention. I’m comfortable with my writing style and I’m sticking to it! (I also know you know how stubborn I am.) LOL!

      • “…but I don’t pay any attention”
        I find that hard to believe…

        • Okay, Keith, I stand corrected. I hear what they’re saying but …
          I choose to ignore their advice.